Overview

We read Susan Calman’s memoir as an open and personal account of living with long term depression. She gives shape to it through the now famous Crab of Hate, a constant presence that arrives uninvited and overstays. Set against her life in Scotland, the book moves through work, relationships, and daily survival, showing what helps, what does not, and how she keeps going even when things feel bleak.

Voice & Atmosphere

We felt immediately at ease with the voice. Calman writes as if she is talking directly to you, warm, honest, and often very funny. The humour never hides the seriousness, but it does make the subject easier to sit with. Her tone allows for awkward moments, setbacks, and doubt, which makes the book feel real rather than polished.

Characters

Susan herself is at the centre, thoughtful and sharp about her own behaviour and moods. Family, friends, therapists, and partners appear throughout, but the most memorable presence is the Crab, used to explain the inner voice that drags everything downward. We found this metaphor clear and effective, especially for readers trying to understand their own experience or someone else’s.

Themes

The book looks closely at depression, identity, and how humour can exist alongside pain. We also saw strong themes around belonging, love, and learning to speak openly about mental health. Calman does not suggest neat solutions. Instead, she shows that managing depression is ongoing work, built from honesty, support, and persistence.

What Worked

• Direct honesty: the book is open about relapse, fear, and frustration.
• Clear, friendly voice: easy to read without feeling shallow.
• Balance of tone: humour and seriousness sit comfortably together.

Minor Quibbles

• Some sections will feel familiar to readers of other mental health memoirs.
• Those looking for medical detail may find the focus more personal than clinical.

Final Thoughts

We found Cheer Up Love generous, funny, and deeply humane, a book that speaks honestly about depression without losing warmth or hope.

Rating: ★★★★½☆ (4.5/5)